There are plenty of parents who will join me in my unhappy feelings about the gift bags that kids are given at their friends’ birthday parties. Of course we’re happy to share the joy of a family celebrating their child and the accomplishment of getting a year older. And it isn’t that I am ungrateful for all the effort that the parents have gone to in order to have the party to begin with–I am. I have done it enough to know what a pain it really is…but I have to speak up about the gift bags full of party favors that the kids get to take home with them from your typical party.
JUNK is the word that comes to mind. Junk food and junk toys. Frustratingly useless stuff that should never even be manufactured is thrown into fancy paper or plastic bags and given to the kids.
Let’s talk about junk food first. I realize that many parents don’t give a thought to the ingredients in the cakes they buy at the grocery store. Still, wherever it came from unless specified otherwise, you can be sure it is full of sugar (and worrisome chemicals–I won’t even get into the dyes used in some icings.).
It’s a cake; it should have sugar, right? Well that’s true, but stores go way overboard, especially with the icings–it is really an unhealthy amount for an average-sized piece. And usually, that cake is eaten at the end of the party. So first, the kids eat some sugary cake, and then they are handed a bag full of candy with more sugar.
Aside from the behavioral aspects of so much sugar, I want to request that parents stop diabeating (to use a word from Urban Dictionary) our kids. Diabetes is at an all-time high, and it is so sad to see obese children–in many cases, it could have easily been prevented with healthier diets and exercise. What is given out at parties just makes giving out harmful foods normal, when it could just as easily go the other way.
With a little creativity (and perhaps a homemade cake made from scratch) children’s exposure to sugar and chemicals in the name of a happy birthday could be greatly reduced. BTW, if you stop and think about the taste of some of these cakes that everyone seems to think are so delicious, they just taste like chemicals. Try it yourself the next time you get a chance to taste a grocery store cake. It’s not good.
All kids look forward to and even expect to get party favors. But can’t we change the tradition of omitting sweets? My kids know they can have something from that bag on the way home, but if I have anything to do with it, they never see the rest of the candy again…straight into the trash when they’re not looking.
Happily, I can report that they often don’t even want to try those candies. So what a waste of money and effort for the gift bag giver, right? It doesn’t help that my kids usually are unhappy with the limitations placed on their newly acquired desserts…making me the bad guy. Lollipops, Swedish Fish, candy rings…nothing but sugar and chemicals…they weren’t necessary to begin with. Let’s find better things to include in those bags!
Then there are the toys. I think most of the stuff comes either from the dollar store or maybe from Oriental Trading Company. Usually, they break easily or never really did what it was supposed to do to begin with…the only useful thing I usually find in those same gift bags are pencils…but oddly, at least going back a few years, the pencils were given out at a party after party for my two and three-year-olds…and since these were normal-adult sized pencils, they weren’t something that my kids could make the best use of. (I am happy to report I have a lifetime supply of colorful pencils stored away.)
Ok, so I hate to complain without providing ideas for solving the problem. First, I think it is useful to point out that the parents probably wind up spending at least 3 or 4 dollars per gift bag. That money could surely be spent in better ways–maybe on just one useful thing that goes with the party’s theme.
For example, for a pool party, you might give away goggles, diving toys or maybe those pool noodles. Maybe for a dinosaur-themed party you could give away a book about dinosaurs or dino action figures. For some parties, the gifts might be something from the party itself–for instance, if you have a craft party, the craft the kids create would be the thing they take home or maybe they get a pack of sculpting clay.
How about a paint-it-yourself birdhouse? Maybe even include some birdseed. Another idea is to give away plants or crafts (or both) — for instance tree in a box – This option was very popular at my child’s 7th birthday party. You can even get Giant Sequoia seeds.
Another idea is to go to Ikea and purchase live bamboo plants, and if you want to get fancy, buy some of the 75-cent vases to go with them. Kids are surprised and enjoy caring for them, and they’re really difficult to kill. This year we purchased a cactus plant for each kid who came to the party. They loved it! By the way, I saw the sale depicted below at Ikea on a recent trip (September 2019)…
If it’s within the budget, you could hire a caricature artist for the party. The party favor could be a caricature of each of the guests. This is truly fun for the kids, and in the best circumstances, will be keepsakes that the child will treasure.
We’ve also recently been to a dolphin themed birthday where the hosts gave each child a hula hoop with an inflatable dolphin hanging in the middle. At “Five Below” you can get a hula hoop for about $2.
There are lots of other clever ideas. For example, we recently went to a pool party where the hosts gave pineapples to each guest. The pineapples were decorated with sunglasses and Hawaiian Leis. This fantastic because aside from the novelty it gives kids a reminder that fruits can be fun and interesting.
Aside from things like that, I would recommend that parents try to stay away from giving any food at all in the party favor bags if you can.
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